Bert Hellinger describes a basic requirement for dealing with the matters of Life and Death during his workshop in Warsaw in 2003.
“When it comes to more difficult things, to matters of life and death, for instance, you cannot deal with it, unless you have undergone a certain inner growth. That means that you have learnt to agree to the world as it is, with no wish to change it. It’s the best possible world. If you want to change it, you put yourself above God or the Creator. You behave as if you would do better. Only children think that they can do better than their parents.
“The personal growth means that you consent to the world as it is. You consent to your parents as they are. You consent to yourself as you are, without any wish to be different in any way. Then you get very calm. You don’t have to bother much and just love yourself as you are, and your parents as they are and you love other people as they are. And then when you help people, you consent to them as they are, without any wish to improve them.
“If you have that wish, you put yourself above them. Then you won’t succeed. But when you support them in their inner growth, the main support is that you help them that they love themselves as they are, that they love their parents as they are, and that they love the world as it is. Then they can give up certain dreams and reconcile with reality as it is. In this way we work in a very modest way, but the results are marvelous. Why? Because they are in agreement and in tune with reality as it is.”
